15 January 2016

How the face changes...

I've been thinking about this ever since I read how when we are young we resemble our parents, but as we grow older our face changes. This made me pause and I wanted to search my own thoughts on this.

How does the face change? How do looks become different? What happens?

I know all of us have, at some time or other, thought of these things. For me, I realized that this train of thought made all kinds of things that were buried deep under many, many layers of my consciousness, surface. Pulling them out and examining them has been quite painful at times, and surprising at others.

Here are some of the things that change the way we look:

The experiences we go through
The lessons life teaches us - some scary, some painful, some beautiful
The books we read, the films we watch, the courses we choose to study
The developing of our likes and dislikes - sometimes quite, quite different from our parents' likes and dislikes
The consciousness that dawns on us about talents and personality traits that we never dreamt we had
The consciousness that our dream about ourself or the belief that we were this, that or the other isn't really real
The consciousness that how we viewed ourselves is very different from what we actually are
The choices we make - some simple, some difficult and more complicated...some matching what our parents would have wanted us to make, some very different from what we were brought up to make or very different from the 'done' thing in the circle we grew up in

Our thinking changes as we realize that we are not the person we thought we were and around and on which we had built up the whole structure of our lives...And as this seeps into our consciousness the lines of our face change and we come into our own.....we are of our parents, but we are different from them....we are our own person. Scary......but true....and this opens a whole world of possibilities....gives us the chance to dream more realistic dreams, as it were....

Could be this is why some people look better and better as they grow older while some never change at all from the time you knew them as a child. Some actually begin to look like copies of their parents while some become totally different with just the shades of their parents showing beneath some contours...