Come pause a minute,

Sit with me awhile,

and share your thoughts...

29 May 2015

Sometimes I feel...

so mad with despair...

If you're a Christian, there's trouble

If you're a Muslim, there's trouble

If you're gay, there's trouble

If you're a lesbian, there's trouble

If you belong to the 'third sex', there's trouble

If you're a girl child, there's trouble

If you're challenged, physically or mentally, there're huge problems

If you're emotionally crippled, there're problems



What happens to the heart beating in each breast? Does it have a label? Does it discriminate?

What happens to feelings? Do they have a sex?

What happens to thoughts? Do they have a sex?

What happens to beliefs and values they live by? Do these have a sex?


27 May 2015

One of the most powerful ways...

I would even go so far as to say - The only way...to change our life is to make a difference in someone else's life. Even just trying to make a difference in someone else's life changes ours.

If you've reached a dead end, if you're troubled beyond belief, if you've finally, finally arrived at a blank wall reaching up to the skies...

                                             it is time to take yourself in hand - no matter how difficult that proves to be, no matter you just want to pull the covers over your head and block out the day, no matter that you feel you have absolutely no strength in you to even lift your hand, let alone your head....no matter what...

Just make that herculean effort just once. For just one last time find a wee bit of love for yourself...

Get up and go to the poorest of neighborhoods, or an orphanage, or an old people's home, or a school for the less privileged. Talk to the people, see if you can do something to help, just be around if you don't know what to do....the answers will come. Once you look into the eyes of a dispossessed person, a brutalized woman, a hurt child...your life will never be the same again. You will feel energy flowing through you, your mind will start humming with all kinds of solutions and things you can do, and the balance returns to your mind-heart-soul-body......................and you feel healed.

For this is the reality. These are the real people. And these will bring out the real you.

Try it. I have...

19 May 2015

A tribute...

to Aruna Shanbaug...

What a brave soul

What a brutal thing to happen to her at age 25.....she was on the threshold of a full life

What generosity of spirit - her colleagues, and subsequently two generations of nurses, looked after her, cared for her, and spent time with her....celebrating her birthdays and her tiny 'life' successes


42 years after...
                                                                                                         The KEM Hospital bid her farewell 

01 May 2015

I've learnt by first-hand example...

that no matter how unpleasant/terribly unpleasant or horrible unhappy a situation is, to grit my teeth and ride it out.

This is difficult, can be unbelievably difficult, but it is do-able. Ride it out...Ride it out without bitter thoughts either directed to those creating this unpleasantness/unhappiness, or towards myself. And the results are peaceful.

The tactic is this: Do something, anything to keep your mind away and occupied with something else. Do something so that, as it is bound to happen, when your mind does go towards it or veers towards it, you force it away and do something else - keep on at your regular tasks - no matter how much you don't feel like doing anything - read, do some craft work, or whatever you had scheduled for this time, or which gives you pleasure during normal days. Maybe you'll have to re-read what you'd read or redo the craft work again, but it wouldn't have been a waste of time and energy, because it helped you ride out and wait out the unpleasantness/unhappiness.

This helps:

Let every situation be what it is, instead of what you think it should be, and then making the best of it. ~ Walker Samui

23 April 2015

How many times...

have we heard this being nastily told to someone, especially someone who cannot answer back-----"I'm only saying this for your improvement....for your good."






Are you perfect? Have you never committed this 'crime/misdemeanour/error/mistake/'terrible' thing?

03 April 2015

The other day...

Some of us colleagues were talking on how short we are on one very important thing - listening.

The conversation moved on to how many kids could be drawn back from getting into wrong habits or doing wrong things if only someone would listen to their conversations - one would then be able to detect undertones which are really cries for help.

Even with each other, how often we just don't keep quiet and listen - we're in such a hurry to give our point of view, or solve their problem (which they haven't even asked us to help with), or just to show we are know-it-alls and have all the answers. Why can't we just keep quiet? For all you know - and it often is so - while the person is talking, and we are giving them our ear - QUIETLY - they figure out their own solutions. All they needed was the reassurance of our presence - that's all.

In my meditation, that evening, I came across this wonderful quote:

Our listening creates a sanctuary for the homeless parts within another person.
~ Rachel Naomi Remen

So true - and so what we don't do...

I've talked about identity before...

Came across another very do-able and understand-able take on identity.

This is from the Brain Pickings Weekly newsletter. It features Margaret Mead and James Baldwin on Identity, Race, the Immigrant Experience, and Why the "Melting Pot" Is a Problematic Metaphor.

Identity is something we claim for ourselves, then must assert willfully to the world:

You've got to tell the world how to treat you. If the world tells you how you are going to be treated, you are in trouble.

You see, I think we have to get rid of people being proud of their ancestors, because after all they didn't do a thing about it. What right have I to be proud of my grandfather?

I can be proud of my child if I didn't ruin her, but nobody has any right to be proud of his ancestors.



And so draw their sense of identity from them (our ancestors)...

Creating our identity is something we have to do ourselves, for ourselves.